Hope or just a convenient dumping ground?

I chanced upon a little news going on back at home in Malaysia while looking around for info on apidexin. On Saturday, the Women, Family and Community Development Ministry of Malaysia together with OrphanCare set up the country’s first baby hatch with the purposes of taking in abandoned babies or help mothers who are unable to care for children. While the measure is welcomed by some groups and even myself, I do feel that it does little to address the actual root of the problem – teenage pregnancies.

Too often we have read of teenagers getting pregnant and giving birth without knowing what is happening to their bodies. Doesn’t this speak volumes of the kind of education that these individuals are receiving from the family unit, the education system and ultimately society? It’s bad enough that we don’t really talk about sex in schools. Sure, we know what a penis and a vagina is and what happens when sperm encounters eggs but we don’t discuss about the emotional implications that comes with sex. We make sex and birth control so technical that young people don’t know how to apply that knowledge to reality. All that education we put into their heads is vomited out the moment they leave school.

Case in point? Well, I actually know of people – young women to be exact – who go around having unprotected sex and bank on the chance that they won’t get pregnant only to go through a number of abortions. Their reasons for ditching birth control can ranging from the stupid to the unbelievable:

  • It’s not my responsibility to buy condoms.
  • It’s too expensive.
  • My boyfriend doesn’t like the feel of condoms.
  • It won’t happen to me because (insert reasons like “my period is irregular” and all that nonsense).
  • My boyfriend should be more worried about me getting pregnant than I am.

I have lost count of the number of times I’ve had to explain to young women that wearing a condom isn’t about preventing pregnancy alone. It’s about protecting your sexual health. Did you know that 30% of new HIV cases in Malaysia happen to married women who catch it from their husbands? So what more to young women who are just dating or sexually active with many men? Lord knows what you can catch from your spouse, especially in this day and age when ANYTHING is possible.

Why I drag parents into the equation is that it’s the parent’s responsibility as well to go through “the birds and the bees” talk with their children and lend a more realistic perspective on sex. I’m not talking about talks that go along the lines of “having sex makes you a cheap whore”. Please, that is very wrong. Children, especially those who are reaching that age where their hormones drive them crazy, need to know that it’s okay to have sex; they just make sure that it’s safe sex and to have sex responsibly. I found it pleasant and even inspiring to hear how my mother-in-law told my husband where the condoms were and that he was welcomed to use them when he first became sexually active. No lectures, no witch hunt, no labelling. Just support and understanding.

Why I dragged society into the equation is that we need to move away from addressing problems with short term solutions. We need to find out why teenage pregnancies are climbing and what we can do about it, not just give teenagers an easy way out with an ad that probably reads like this – “Pregnant? No where to go? Dump your baby with us and we’ll do the rest.” How can we be sure that people walk away from their mistakes smarter?

And while we’re at it, where are all the fathers? Still out sowing their wild oats. Much heap and blame plus shame have been heaped onto pregnant young mothers but what about the men who impregnate them?

The baby hatch idea is a good short-term solution but more needs to be done to change the attitude that teenagers have about pregnancy, sex and well, parenthood.

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Nearing that one year mark!

"That was yummeh!"

Did you know that we’re this close to Eva’s first birthday????

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Amidst all the assignments (eczema treatment and fat burners are pretty popular topics for my blog – do you know why?), work and trying to relax, I suddenly realized that we are two months away from someone turning the big one year old! While many mums have started planning big bashes and such, this mum is sort of taking it easy by keeping things a little quiet and well, slow-going.

Of course there’ll be a cake but I haven’t really given it much thought and while my parents have planned to be around during the weekend of her birthday, I guess it’ll just be us and a cake. Talk about ultra small and low-key.

Will this set the tone for many other birthdays to come? We’ll see but for now, I think small and low-key is just fine.

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Purple Waters

Simple Scarves Merino-Silk (3 ply) in Purple Waters

Ply | Three
Yardage | 280.4 m
WPI | Fingering
Fibre | Merino-Silk
Tool | Serenity Wheel [10:1]

Spin spin spin…that’s all I can say. LOL!

Sometimes I really run out of things to say about my handspun yarns. I guess it’s due to the fact that I go through one fiber after another and then a longggg pause during the spinning process that I forget whatever it is that I’ve been facing with that particular project.

But one thing is for sure – spinning regularly helps to keep things even! So now that that is out of the way, it’s back to the wheel for me!

Simple Scarves Merino-Silk (3 ply) in Purple Waters

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When God made you…

I knew from the moment I first heard this song that it was the right one for my wedding. Bear in mind that I don’t really listen to a whole lot of Christian contemporary music – prefer gospels – but while searching around for that non-cheesy and meaningful wedding song, I chanced upon this one. How exactly, I can’t really remember. I just knew that it was perfect and it spoke of how we came to be.

Now, nearly three years later, as I listen to this song again during my journey to work, I’m gently reminded of the feelings the song evoked, why I chose it and more specifically/importantly, how far my marriage has come and has to continue on. It’s uplifting and well, meaningful, and so I’m sharing the lyrics with you. You can listen to a sample of it here and then there is Youtube. *winks*

When God Made You by Newsong and Natalie Grant

It’s always been a mystery to me,
How two hearts can come together,
And love can last forever.
But now that I have found you I believe,
That a miracle has come when God sends the perfect one.
So gone are all my questions about why,
And I’ve never been so sure of anything in my life

Oh I wonder what God was thinking,when He created you.
I wonder if He knew everything I would need,
Because He made all my dreams come true.
When God made you, He must have been thinking about me.

I promise that wherever you may go, wherever life may lead you,
With all my heart I’ll be there too.
And from this moment on I want you to know,
I’ll let nothing come between us, and I will love the ones you love.
So gone are all my questions about why

Oh I wonder what God was thinking when He created you,
I wonder if He knew everything I would need,
Because He made all my dreams come true.
When God made you He must’ve been thinking about me.

He made the sun, He made the moon,
To harmonize a perfect tune,
One can’t do without the other they just have to be together.
And that is how I know its true,
Your for me and i’m for you and my world
Just cant be right without you in my life

He must have heard every prayer I’ve been praying
He must’ve knew everything I would need
When God made you, He must’ve been thinking about me.

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Gemstone

SS Handspun 74/25 BFL/Silk (Single Lace) in Gemstone

Ply | Single
Yardage | 461.8 m
WPI | Lace
Fibre | 75/25 BFL-Silk
Tool | Serenity Wheel [10:1]

My very first singles that are not overspun OR underspun thanks to adjustments to the tension and the threading (I can’t go at it as if it were spin-on-treadmills)!

I love how the colours came out – exactly as I envisioned it to be – but more importantly, I love love love the fact that it just took me two nights to spin this up! AHAHAHAHA! Now in terms of yardage, I would have liked to have something more substantial to work with but the 450 over meters will be good for a small-medium sized lace shawl. I guess I just need to find the right pattern now.

But yes, singles are amazing things to spin up! *grin*

SS Handspun 74/25 BFL/Silk (Single Lace) in Gemstone

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At 730am…

…on a Saturday, I was awake already. Why, you may ask. No, I’m not up on the Internet looking to find best acne medicines or anything “light”. It’s because the little resident drama princess was awake and babbling. No wet diapers, no poo or anything similar. She just babbles non-stop. I guess she just had enough of snooze.

Not me.

After a week of getting up at 630am and sleeping at close to midnight, I seriously need the sleep. O’well, since she’s awake, I guess I might as well stay awake. So I did a quick mop of the place, a simple clean-up, prepared my own breakfast before taking her out off the crib to just hang out on the floor with me.

The week has been quite warm and today is of no exception. Maybe it’s the weather or just her teething mood, but our little miss is still babbly hours later and dying for some hugs, playtime and so forth. So it looks to be an Eva-filled day for me. So much for sleeping in as many singletons (married or otherwise) would claim that I have. Pfft.

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In case you missed it…

New items at the store!

…I’m back on the dyeing front – can you believe it? – and it’s all for the store. I’m actually quite surprised by the results, after having spent a few hours soaking them and then a morning (or two) working on them. There is just something about dyeing ounces of wool with random colours after working on some 7-dfbx reviews!

For more yummylicious and colourful pics, feel free to check out the store!!!

New items at the store!

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The results are in!

Admist the training sessions at work, the colon cleanser assignments, I managed to squeeze in some time to check on the result of the contest. Yup, the one where Eva was part of and the one that had been running for the last two weeks until 30 April.

Thanks to your votes, we came in a cool SECOND place and won an outdoor photo package from Pink Elephant Labs here in Singapore, in addition to a gift hamper worth more than $150 from Pupsik Studio!!!

Quite timely as well since I was planning on getting some shots done for Eva. Can you believe that we haven’t had a family portrait since…forever?

Anyway, my thanks to all who voted and I’ll definitely post up the pics one we get around to it!

🙂

** Cross-posted on the baby blog **

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