Comments on: Rais Yatim on mixed marriages.

By: carlos

carlos — Mon, 29 Mar 2010 10:04:21 +0000

That’s the point of being a politician.They generalized a lot in order to avoid specific subjects. There’s no problem with that.Marrying someone because u love em is good but would it be nice if u consider the cultural variances & think hard before u jump to any deep shitholes.If it’s for love, then u must know what are u marrying into.Then again if there was love, would it defeat the purpose a little bit to leave her after a year? That’s bizarre ain’t it?It’s true that many of our leader have different opinions but if u look at it, it’s just another broken & troubled marriage.That’s not for us to judge.It’s simply a personal decision.U asked for it, u got it lor…

By: Mabel

Mabel — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 14:43:07 +0000

That’s the thing – circumstances, family history, culture, environment, laws, religion, etc may all affect who we are essentially but at the end of the day, it boils down to one thing – do you want to save your marriage or not? If you don’t, nothing or anyone is going to change that.

By: Richard

Richard — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 09:00:15 +0000

It’s so sad to hear such a comment from someone who’re well respected in community. Why evryone is blaming the mixed marriages institution? I have to agree with san, “love sees no colors”. Perhaps it is not the institution of mixed marriage that is the problem, but we are the problem. Instead of pointing fingers at mixed marriage, we should direct the blame at ourselves. We are the only ones who can really keep or break the commitments we make, not circumstances or family history.

By: JOSEPH ALAGIARAJ

JOSEPH ALAGIARAJ — Mon, 15 Mar 2010 08:22:56 +0000

Marriage is hardwork where you have to know that you are not living for yourself but your wife and vice versa. Give and it shall be given unto you. The giving must come from the heart .

By: Rina Abdullah

Rina Abdullah — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 17:14:36 +0000

I am an East Malaysian of mixed parentage and was married to a Malay West Malaysian. My marriage failed simply because my ex was a womaniser and abuser who didn’t respect the holy matrimony of marriage. Some of my friend said that it is because he is a Malay. I dare to differ. Some of my friend who are also divorced was married to either their own race or non Malays. Its not the religion but the person himself/herself. lets not blame the culture or the religion. A lot of other factors contribute to failed marriages.

By: Mabel

Mabel — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 04:10:19 +0000

Hm, if he really meant to refer to Muslim women, then why not just say so instead of generalizing. Even then, if a foreign man is willing to convert to Islam to be with someone and many don’t make that decision lightly, I do believe that his intentions are genuine and not just done because he’s “in love”.

Sorry but Rais Yatim should first and foremost be seen as a politician not a religious champion. That duty falls to the kadis and other Muslim religious figureheads in the country. I suppose that is one of the fallbacks about politics in Malaysia – it is too intertwined with religion.

By: Ace

Ace — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 12:17:48 +0000

It does not matter how u get married, what race or religion u get married to. What matters most is WHO YOU GET MARRIED TO… Does it matter if he’s a “mat salleh”?? I dont think so!! The compatibility of each other is what matters the most, the personality of the person, the persons character, attitude etc etc. IF you have a proper understanding between each other, LOVE and etc etc…YES you should make your decision wisely before you commit yourself, you should make your decision after thinking a million times(because its your life,how its going to be and its your future that is at risk if you cant think!!). BUT, race or religion should not be problem at all!!

RAIS YATIM mentioned this, “What more, if the couple has a child or children. The father is likely to ’snatch away’ the kids to England or Europe, for instance.” MY comment on this, is that, WHY would the father want to snatch the kids away to England or Europe? IF Malaysia allows(or legalize) mixed marriages, would all at the above matters at all??

By: carlos

carlos — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 08:18:41 +0000

hi to all here..
Don’t mean to interfere but i believe what Rais really means is Islam women marrying other man from any religions It’s not reccommended but it’s not forbidden at all.. So that statement is from an Islamic Politician view..merely a view from a person who practice Islam as a belief & a way of life.If u want a larger view, go & ask around from non-islamic leaders & see what have they gotta say?
Just a Hunch

By: miint

miint — Sat, 13 Mar 2010 04:49:51 +0000

i have many friends who tend to fall for mat salleh. they are young girls and the look for older mat salleh. for what? money of course. semua orang nak hidup senang, but they look for short cuts. these young girls will definitely, ‘give themselves’ to those mat salleh, some get pregnant and persuade the mat salleh to marry them. its not love, jodoh or whatsoever. its being selfish and cheap and memalukan malaysian. in the end, rata-rata their marriages will not last, cerai sana, cerai sini. in some cases, after the girl has given birth, the mat salleh will go back to his normal life. his culture and buat tak tahu towards the girl. it is not easy to maintain a happy, loving marriage, to anyone out there. but marrying foreigner will be riskier. those cases are only happened to my circle of friends, not all mat salleh out are bad. some that i have met, are very fatherly, polite, gentle towards their wives and children. so people, there’s nothing wrong who you are marrying with, as long as its LOVE. able to take care of each other and plan to have a happy family.

By: open minded

open minded — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 23:11:15 +0000

It shows the mentality of our Malaysian politicians. Very shallow and idiotic. I am very surprised that he did not correlate that the global warming is due to mixed marriages as well!