Have a heart to heart with Nil (keep ample tissues. dont know about you, but i tend to bawl my eyes out…hehe) things will get easier…there will be more of a routine…and ask nil for help when you need it. Guys are funny creatures…they don’t always perceive things…you sometimes (ok most times) have to spell it out to them. Do so gently & with respect. Prolly half the time Nil would be surprised to hear that you felt the way you did as he couldnt have guessed and thought you were just being your usual supermom/superwife self.

Hugs,
Alie

I remember once in my postgraduate class, this lady who was my classmate, said that when she had her kid, she couldn’t wait to rush off back to work and be away from her wailing crying baby. I was wondering why she even decided to have a child in the first place. It seemed to me as though her baby was merely a bundle of… burden!

I have no kid yet but the other night me and hb had a heart-to-heart talk about this. What he said touched me very much. He told me that when the child comes, it’s no longer a choice of ready or not, want or not. We will have to endure and face it together as mom & dad. And it wouldn’t be easy. AND like you, I’d be a SAHM. I can picture (and even hear) all the nagging and horrified shrieks of those around me. I can’t reveal my desire to my own family yet. They would be the first to voice their disapproval.

But who can understand us better? We know what we want. Reading your blog lets me know (as you said) that life as wife and mom is no bed of roses. It’s hard work. I can’t picture myself then. Will I crumble under pressure? Will I snap? All I know is I’ll tell myself as best I can to enjoy the blessing of being married to the love of my life and when we have a child, to be thankful for our bundle of joy. Ultimately, we need God’s help in every way.

And so, Mabel, I wish you all the best in your walk as wife and mom. You know you have many moms and wives out there echoing your sentiments and fully understand how it is. Hugs…