I have always wondered if that is an appropriate reason for adultery and betrayal. Too often, I hear the following being said to innocent hearts about the be broken…

“I/We had no choice; I am/we are in love.”

No, no, this has nothing to do with me and Nil. Just an observation from the forum – someone recently posted a thread talking about his few-month-old illicit affair with a newlywed (his client and a woman six years his senior). As to be expected, a lot of those who responded were married and therefore, didn’t look too kindly on this fellow, especially when he started justifying his actions to love and spark & chemistry, about how people deserve second chances, about how this is his first serious relationship (despite being in one with his girlfriend and having countless of exes in the past)…

It touched a nerve, I must admit.

From the start, I have never believed that people lack the ability to make decisions and choices in life. Yes, in general, people are limited to the few choices that life gives them BUT they still have the ability to choose. This young man, for example, had the choice to wait for this woman to obtain a divorce before engaging in an intimate relationship with her while she was still married to her husband. The woman had the choice to get married or not instead of just going ahead with the wedding. She had a choice to speak up and obtain a divorce instead of two-timing on her husband and giving the young man less of what he deserves.

On top of that, this woman is his client! Ohgosh, what does that speak of this man’s sense of professionalism and business ethics?

To be honest, when he started talking about how this was true love and all, I nearly fell backwards. True love in a few months and in the form of adultery, especially after I read the words “spark & chemistry”? That is not love. That is a dick and vagina talking. Now, I don’t profess to be a guru in true love BUT I know love involves time, experience and intimate knowledge of your partner and by intimate, I don’t mean sexually. I mean intimacy in the way of knowing the person’s feelings, insecurities and all…and more.

A fellow forumer implied that I was harsh with my observation and words. I guess if by being politely blunt, I was harsh, then so be it. I have no qualms about calling it what I see it to be – someone cheating on their partner and helping another person cheat on someone else. I have no respect for such individuals, to be frank. It reminds me too much of the past and some people I knew then.

Anyway, what annoyed me more than anything else was this man’s implication that what he was doing is right by all accounts…why? Because he is in love. He even quoted “love conquers all”!

*sigh*

I have seen families fall apart, hearts broken, lives changed…all supposedly in the name of love. If love had a voice, would it agree with these people?

Is love the right reason and justification for adultery and betrayal?

I think I shall go rest my feet lest I get the horrible Plantar Fasciitis problem (painful foot condition in the heel and arch area)…