Like her, I hate LDRs…but unlike her, I still don’t have the gumption to pack up and leave. It isn’t because I don’t want to or refuse to do that. Trust me when I say that I have toyed with the idea many a time.
It’s my parents.
No, I’m not pinning the blame fully on them. I guess I could tell them to sock it and pack up just like that but I like to have my parents’ blessing in everything that I do. My mother has this notion that I should be married to Nil FIRST before attempting to go to France to seek out a job. My dad? Lord knows what he thinks half of the time – he springs surprises on me just like that.
That’s why I’m so envious. Envious of people who have the freedom to do whatever they please with the backing of their parents. Envious of people who have the freedom to do whatever they please AND not care about what their parents think of them.
I can’t even hang on to a job that I like without them telling me to move on when it’s just been my first year at the office. Sometimes I feel like telling them that experience is worth more than starting afresh at the company. They just don’t see it that way.
“You’ve got to know your market value. Nothing wrong with jumping from one company to another. Just try la.”
A rolling stone gathers no moss and rightly so. I already know my own value. Do I need others to reinforce that for me or is my belief is all that I need? Sometimes I feel like taking a year out and go somewhere for a few months to work + study + travel away from my parents.
Now, I absolutely hate it when one parent says one thing and the other says another.
Dad = career first, everything else can wait.
Mum = working holiday business, explore your opportunities, do stuff you like.
It’s annoying having to try and please BOTH of them at the same time. It doesn’t help that some of my friends have more courage and spark than me – one of them just threw it all and went to NZ to look for a job. Now why can’t I bleeding do the same just like that??!???
Working holidays…working holidays…hmm…where can I go?
One Day I’ll Fly Away by Nicole Kidman
I know what you mean, I came back to Malaysia because of my parent and I regret every mins of it. My parent have plan out almost every part of my life, and my job. I meet my husband ( he is from UK) few years ago , they don’t make a big fuss over the matters but I know they don’t really like him, even now that we married. My husband doesn’t really understand my pressure from my family, I guess is a culture differences. Sometime I do feel like just pack my bag and go back to U.S.
[*sigh* How do you cope anyway? I mean...what is it that makes people decide when and how and etc? *doublesigh*]
those were the things that weighed on my head so heavily before everything – before Lee met my parents. it’s strange but they always surprise me somewhat. it’s too long to comment here. i’ll blog a reply.
*HUGS*
[I must go look-see then! *hugs back*]
Hi, I posted some comment some time ago. At that time, we both too in LDR but now I’m no longer since I join my bf in France nearly 3 months back. Well, perhaps my experience may help you bit. I gave up everything I had in M’sia, packed my bag and came to France. It take huge decision to walk this path with thesupport of family and friends, but moreover yourself for being prepared and take the challenge living abroad. Of course there some inviduals out there sceptical and negative about your choice, but afterall, I guess its your life, you plan way how to make most out of it.
Working holiday, I hear of working holiday visa in UK. This applicable for the citizen of commonwealth country and its valid for 2 years. This way may help you closer to your partner. Good luck!
[Did you? Can't remember if you left a comment or not - I'm getting old in that sense. Yes, I see what you mean...I'm thinking of speaking to Nil about it and then to my parents. I think what matters at the end of the day my decision above everyone elses. Thanks for the encouragement!]
live your own life…sounds like you’re trying to live a life that your parents want…….need to explain to them what you want, your plan on how to achieve itand whatever the outcome is, you’re responsible for it yourself.
[I finally did and the results were very surprising. Lets just say that I feel so much better now! :D: ]
At the end of the day, do something that makes you happy. When the people around you sees how happy you are, they will eventually come to accept the decisions that you make for your life. :hug:
[ :hug: Eh, come back cepat la! Nanti I cabut without seeing you, how?]
you did? :clap: good on you girl! will we be hearing good news soon enough? :flower:
[I did and it was surprising yet such a huge relief! Don't know yet about the good news. LOL. I'm going on vacation first. ^^ ]