NOTE: This is written from a female perspective – hence the very sex-specific tone. It’s not meant to be sexually discriminatory.
Careless Whisper by George Michael
I feel so unsure
as I take your hand and lead you to the dance floor
as the music dies, something in your eyes
calls to mind the silver screen
and all its sad good-byesI’m never gonna dance again
guilty feet have got no rhythm
though it’s easy to pretend
I know you’re not a foolShould’ve known better than to cheat a friend
and waste the chance that I’ve been given
so I’m never gonna dance again
the way I danced with youTonight the music seems so loud
I wish that we could lose this crowd
Maybe it’s better this way
We’d hurt each other with the things we’d want to sayWe could have been so good together
We could have lived this dance forever
But no one’s gonna dance with me
Please stay
Cheating – some of us do it knowingly; others do it unknowingly. You know how it is.
“Oh, I didn’t know he was married.” “He has a girlfriend/wife?!?? But he said he was single.” “We don’t even have sex. It’s just all talk and flirtation. That’s all.”
While a good many of us have the luck in the form of loyal, committed partners, there are countless of men and women out there who are either getting the short end of the stick in a triangle or helping someone somewhere cheat on their partner.
Why?
Is lying to your partner (someone you profess to love and care) any better than just coming out and saying that you want to break off? Are married/attached men all that more attractive than single men? Is short-term happiness more important than long-term joy?
I have been trying to understand the reasons behind this so-called phenomenon of cheating for many years now. To a certain degree, we do live in a predominantly monogamous society – I guess if I grew up in a polygamous environment, this whole concept of “one feet in two boots” (a Chinese saying) wouldn’t be given such nasty/negative labels.
I have seen how relationships and marriages have collapsed; how individuals have been reduced to depressed, insecure nobodies; how children have shed buckets of tears for the lost of a daddy or mummy AND the burden of having to choose between either parent; and of what people go through just to pick up the pieces again.
Yet, there are women out there, who despite having been abandoned by their not-so-single loved ones and having vowed never to go into a triangle, find themselves going back to the same situation over and over again. There are men out there who are aggressive when it comes to work and other matters but find it so hard to talk to the wife about conflicts and problems, choosing instead to find comfort and solace in the arms and heart of another woman.
This is something I have yet to understand. Or do I really want to know why? (Sometimes I think I won’t be able to handle the truth. Gack.)
Seriously…why do people cheat?
In the film Analyze This, Robert De Niro’s character tells his shrink that he keeps a mistress because he likes getting fellatio. His shrink asks how come De Niro doesn’t just ask the wife for a BJ, to which the latter replies:
“Are you nuts?! She kisses the kids good night!”
Sometimes it’s as simple, or as dumb, as that.
Some cheat for the rush of adrenaline. Some feel that they wanna play the field a little more longer while still having somebody waiting for them at home. Different people have different reasons for cheating. I guess we will never know the real reasons behind why people cheat.
But speaking from my own experience, he cheated on me because “one boat” is just not enough for him. He did it so that his male ego would be stroked further. He did it because he wants to be able to brag about how “talented” he is in front of his friends. Seriously, IMHO, he did it because he is still immature in terms of relationship.
The cheating torn me apart when the cat was out of the bag. I cried myself to sleep for weeks. I was depressed and my studies were slightly affected. Despite all that, I still have faith enough to know that not all men are cheaters. Though I still have fear in me, the fear of being cheated again behind my back, I believe everybody should be given a benefit of a doubt.
Cheaters…they’re just very selfish and childish people at the end of the day.
There are thousands of reasons why a man wanna to cheat people.
May b for self-protection..
May b to cover his ass
May b to delight someone
May b not to hurt someone feeling
Too many doubts…
well, dun simply trust others…always have doubtful minded…
trust your gut feeling then….
it’s absolutely irk me when i find out the truth…
HAH. Did you all hear that conversation on MixFM?
This guy won flowers lah and Syazmin (dunno how you spell) asked him who he plans to give it to. The best part is, he doesn’t know that the wife is on the other line listening to everything. So the guy said, “The flowers are for Michelle”. Needless to say, the wife kicked him out of the house that night itself. He called Richard and Syazmin and asked them to help him out. I dunno what happened but PADAN MUKA SIAL. That was by far the dumbest cheater I’ve ever heard of.
You wanna cheat also cheat properly lah. Dun do it on a radio show! I pity the wife man. Humiliated live on radio.
People cheat because our bilogical make-up requires it. The survival of the healthiest gene (attractiveness), financial reasons (better life for the offspring) etc. They say that the man’s semen is made up of only 1% reproductive swimmers and 99% “fighter sperm”, which are there to kill off another man’s semen already inside. The whole action of sex, all of the in and out is for the sole purpose of scooping out the sperm already inside. In nature, virtually no animal species is monogamous. None. There are a million other facts that I don’t feel like getting into right now but the answer to your question is very simple. Good day.